by Janice L. McCarthy, MSW, LSW
Grief is something we all know; we experience many losses in life. Our grief is how we feel on the inside after we’ve experienced a loss.
Our feelings aren’t good or bad or right or wrong; they are real and true.
The feelings of grief take many forms and may be experienced as physical pain, discomfort, sadness, longing, lack of energy and questioning. No emotion is off limits when we grieve.
Try to notice everything about your experience. Learn about the grieving process. Take one small step at a time toward acceptance. Honor your feelings. Learn what you need to do to adjust to the changes. As you adapt and accept them as a part of your life, you’ll be able to hold your loss in a special place where your memories bring you more comfort than pain.
In times of change we are keenly aware of what’s missing and what’s different. Notice what you still have. Gratitude is an important part of healing.
Grief work is challenging and it takes time. In fact, more time than most people expect or like. As you work through the losses and changes in your life, you’ll find it’s helpful to be compassionate with yourself; as patient and gentle as you are to a dear friend.
Learning about the grief process and getting support from friends, family and professionals will assist you as you work toward healing.
The face of hope will change as you grieve. Hold it in your heart; keep it alive because you won’t always feel as bad as you do when your grief is fresh.
“When you are sorrowful look again into your heart, and, you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.” ~ Gibran
Jan is a grief therapist who has a background in clinical social work. With her warm compassionate style, she opens the conversation that facilitates understanding, acceptance, and hope. Jan will be our guest speaker at our luncheon on Valentine’s Day: http://johnfslater.com/index.