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Thomas Francis Melissen

January 12, 1959 - November 15, 2022

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Obituary For Thomas Francis Melissen

Thomas Francis Melissen, adored husband and father, died at the age of 63 on November 15th 2022. Survived by his beloved wife and best-friend Bonnie Jean Melissen (Boles), two children Thomas Adrian Melissen (Laura) and Amy Marie Melissen (Andrew), and two grandsons Owen Michael Melissen and Caleb Alexander Melissen. Tom was predeceased by his Mother, Mary Jean Melissen-Dieckhaus and brother Larry Melissen. He is survived by his siblings Tish Ries (Joe), Sammy, Angel (Dick Shea), Leo (Tina), Carl (Mickey), Jerry (Fiona), Jack (Patty), Paul (Megan), Bernie, Mary (Freddy), Evie, Rob (Erin), Billy (Meg), Carrie and many more cousins, nieces, and nephews. Born in East Mt. Airy in Philadelphia, PA to Mary Jean (Glenn) in 1959, Tom studied at Holy Cross Elementary and Cardinal Dougherty High School. He enjoyed managing bands and studying architecture. Later becoming a guitarist and vocalist in his own right, he met the true love of his life, Bonnie, and raised two children. Tom had passionate interests including mechanical troubleshooting and design, budding interests in motorcycles, fishing with his wife, playing with his grandsons, and of course playing and listening to music. Tom loved laughing and enjoyed the Three Stooges, watching funny videos, and always being quick with many dad-jokes. Tom also really loved animals including his past and present puppies, Keri and LadyBug, and his kitten, Boots.
Nature, Science, and cosmic phenomena were also among Tom's favored interests. Tom inspired many aspiring musicians in his lifetime and was always a humble yet loud supporter. Tom and Bonnie worked together for many years to build a Home that many in Spring Mount and friends of the family found to be a safe retreat. Tom retired in 2019 and spent the last few years of his life fishing, enjoying watching his grandsons grow and his children continue to learn and prosper, never missing the 6:00 news, unless one of his children called, and always being a reliable rock to support with kindness. While no formal services are being held to celebrate Tom's life, the Family encourages you to celebrate as you see fit and spread good love and laughter. Donations can be made in Tom's memory at https://www.alz.org. Arrangements handled by John F. Slater Funeral Home, Inc., 412-881-4100, 4201 Brownsville Road, Brentwood 15227.

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  • 11/20/2022

    I am so lucky to have grown up next to the Melissen's. They were like a second family and Tom a second father, their friendship is such a core of my childhood. I have so often thought of this one memory of Tom. I was probably 6 years old and trying to shove my sneakers on my feet without first untying the laces. Tom bet me that I couldn't get them on and I'd have to untie them, and the bet was for a dance at my wedding. He was right, I couldn't get them on. I lost the bet and owed him a dance one day. I'd always hoped to hold up my end of the bargain and dance with Tom at my wedding, but when the day comes in the future he'll be there in spirit. I'm so lucky to have been one of those loved by Tom. He loved so big, his smile said it all. I love you Melissen family and you're in my thoughts ❤️ Jennifer Nyce

  • 11/18/2022

    Condolences to the Melissen family Fond memories of "The Wall", CYO and Youth Group dances and lots of parties Rest in Peace Tommy

  • 11/17/2022

    sending condolences to the Milissen family and friends. Tom and i were grade school classmates. Marianne Swann

  • 11/17/2022

    Loving, gentle, funny and generous are just a few of many words that can be used to describe my Uncle Tommy. Throughout my life he and Aunt Bonnie have always been there, making it to every birthday, graduation or any other party my parents threw. His smile lite up a room and his energy just made everything seem like it was going to be okay. I will never forget that crazy drive to Vestal we had. Where I got to hear stories of him and my dad growing up and his beautiful singing voice when a song came on the radio he liked. Also can never forget driving back and seeing his face when Erin mooned him, I hope images of that day and him holding my first born Aubrey never leave my brain because the love he expressed for her was the same he had for his own. These are some of my favorite memories along with him playing guitar and singing with Amy at any event. I will miss your electric laugh and warm hugs the most of all. I hope he is now at peace and in no more pain laughing with Uncle Larry. Will always love and miss you - Kacy, Nick, Aubrey and Madison.

  • 11/17/2022

    I knew Tommy as a classmate at Holy Cross. One of the nicest boys there! And we understood each other. I was one of 16 children too. I know from our exchanges how deeply he loved Bonnie and his children. Rest In Peace, my friend.

  • 11/17/2022

    Tom was one of kindest men I ever met. I'm so thankful for all the times had together, even through the pandemic the four us found our way to see each other. He & Leo would talk for two hours straight while Bon & I did our thing every time we'd get together. Only once did I even see him slightly annoyed, when had we had to cut our NY trip short. Still the proudest & happiest I saw Tom is when he found out he was going to be a grand pop. He had so much love to give. I will always be grateful that I got to see him one last time last week. And when he said "I love you guys" to me, my heart melted & broke at the same time. I truly hope he knew just how much we loved him too. 💔

  • 11/17/2022

    Growing up, our families were very close. Even as the distance between our homes grew, we always felt welcome when we'd visit and that is because Uncle Tommy and Aunt Bonnie genuinely were happy to see us and took time to talk to us kids, not just our parents. We loved playing at their house, running wild outside, and hated leaving, even when the only light left was the lightning bugs. As time has gone on, Uncle Tommy and Aunt Bonnie came to my own kid's birthday parties, and he and my dad would just light up watching the kids play. He was so thrilled when his own grandkids came along. What I will remember most is uncle Tommy's boisterous laugh. It was a beautiful, happy sound that I can still hear in my head as I think of him. I hope it brings some small comfort to especially Aunt Bonnie, Tommy, and Amy to know that, because of them, his life was so full of joy and that we are so thankful that he shared it with so many of us. We love you. -Michele, James, Selena, Aidan & Dylan

  • 11/16/2022

    This is to the man I chose to be with for 40 years of my life. I walked into his room the last day of his life a thanked him , kissed him loved him we had our good and bad happy and sad but till death do us part. What is death really just a separation for now. Love ya baby

  • 11/16/2022

    My deepest sympathies to Amy, Tommy, Bonnie, and the entire Melissen family. He lives on in your smiles, your music, and your memories.

  • 11/15/2022

    Sweet Tom...such a great guy. I will always remember him with a guitar in his hands. Loved and looked forward to seeing him at family gatherings...playing with Poppop (his uncle Bob).💙 Rest peacefully sweetheart.

  • 11/15/2022

    Tom and his family lived just next door to us for years in Spring Mount. I remember how hard he worked. Packing up in the driveway to head to this job our that new job (always with a smile on his face). He absolutely LOVED Bonnie, Tommie and Amy and his face would always light up when he talked about them! As one of the recipients of those holiday bouquets 💐 I remember I would always say.... Tom thank you so much, but you don't have to bring flowers... and he would always say how much he appreciated my family and friendship and just adored our girls! Know that he was so loved by soooo many people whose lives he touched and will be missed! Rest well in heaven our friend! The Nyce's

  • 11/15/2022

    I only hold good memories of Tom. And Tom and Bonnie together were true partners, a love story, a sit com, and what a beautiful family they have. His kindness and humor will not go forgotten. I love you all - Melissa

  • 11/15/2022

    I'm proud to have been your son. You did everything to give us a simplistic life. You showed us how to work and took time to play. Your direct approach to everything guided me towards a path that would allow me to give and take love in every relationship. You answered ever phone call and ended each one by telling me you love me. Thank you for being you and giving me everything I've ever wanted. I'll miss your jokes, tricks and advice. I'm a better person because of you. I love you dad and I really am going to miss you.

  • 11/15/2022

    One of the kindest, gentlest, loving, "here's the shirt off my back" human being I have ever met. He had a great impact on me in my 20s and 30s and I will never forget that or him. Thank you for everything Tom.